Monday, September 17, 2012

dear auntie kim: you jump i jump

Auntie Kim is BACK! It's been awhile since this, this and that. No questions mah, mah no answers-lor.
 
Anyhooters, turns out this girl msg-ed me on Facebook in March this year but got sent to my spam cos she was not on my friend list. Just found it as I was clearing my inbox today:

 
Natalia (name changed to protect her privacy):
 
hi auntie kim... i came across your blog recently when i was googling *bleeep* hospital...

my boyfriend is currently working in o&g posting as a HO in the same hospital. i just wanna understand the current situation in the posting as i couldnt understand his work load and hectic-ness. he completed paeds and surgery posting so far.

1. which is the hardest posting in the hospital?
2. is it so tiring & DEPRESSING during tagging?
3. how is o&g in *bleep* overall? is it stressful?
i hope to hear from you soon because even im depressed. :(frown
thank you so much.
 
Dear dear Natalia,

So sorry for such a delayed reply. I've only found this as I was clearing out the spam inbox. I do believe it may be too late to discuss this as he's probably done with the posting but I'll just try anyways.

 I would believe during my time, medical was the most difficult posting for me as it was my first posting and we were such freshies. The downside of being an Indon grad is that people pretty much have a stigma against you and it was a struggle to get someone to teach us the ' right' way at the time. We had to suffer some verbal torment as a result. I'm unsure how the situation is like there now as all the MO-s and specialists during my era have transferred. Also the housemen ratio has increased so much since. We used to have a ratio of 1 ho : 40-60 patients. Now it's pretty much 1 ho : 5-10 pt. Still tagging is essentially tagging and it's the crappiest part of being a houseman. It's 2-3 weeks of doing every other day oncalls (if this system still applies) which literally mean you start work at 6am and finish work the next day at 5pm. You do whatever chores that is needed like laundry, chatting with family, dinner etc then sleep and the next day the cycle repeats itself. Most of the time when you are tagging you're the scum of the workforce hierarchy so you get weekend calls and public holidays. If somehow or rather you've pissed your MO off, you get crappier / heavier workload than others. You may think it's unfair but that's how life works in general. It's slightly amplified in medicine because the pressure is high and perfection is required when it comes to dealing with people's lives. It is very tiring because you pretty much have to stay awake and alert for 36 hours or more. Small mistakes = BIG punishment. It is depressing because life pretty much revolves around work and trying HARD to not get into trouble. Also you hardly get any respect from patients, staff, colleagues / bosses and even the cleaners! Heh. It really screws the entire american dream about being a doctor.
 
As a doctor's girlfriend you will have to learn and practice patience. You may have to be an emotional punching bag sometimes and most of all you will expect alot of disappointments especially during festivals. If this is something you find hard to accept then.. well I need not go further. But if you feel he's a good man and you foresee a wonderful relationship with him then weather this storm. Do your own stuff when he's busy, don't get disappointed if he has to work Valentine's day, listen if he has stuff he needs to let out, bake him cookies (doctors love to eat! it's our only pleasure in life) and most of all offer him encouragement. I can't say the same for others but housemanship changed me. It made me less happy a person but a stronger one inside. You will have to accept these changes.. consider it personal growth.

I'm unsure if this is helpful but I do hope that things take a turn for the better. It's hard to be a doctor's partner (especially if you're not a doctor yourself) but I appreciate everything my then-boyfriend-now-husband has done for me during those dark times.
 
All the best babydoll.
 
Sphymo-cuff hugs and syringe kisses, 

Auntie Kimberley

 
P.S: Although please note that allowing him your shoulder to cry on does NOT mean he can verbally abuse you or put you down. Sorry, just had to post this footnote in. Auntie Kim heavily frowns upon abusive relationships.
 
 
P.P.S: Oh and much thanks for reading my blog :Dgrin Makes me *kembang* when readers say hi eheh!
 
 
 

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