Thursday, March 04, 2010

a tired soul

I got posted to Batu Gajah.

It’s further than TI. So really, it’s further than ever.

Others got posting they despised as well. An apparent one is Grik of course. For those who travel alot they probably know it’s not the most accessible town in Malaysia. I know I should be thankful I didn’t get Grik. But Batu Gajah, to me, is equally as disastrous. Already as it is, Guy has to travel 2.5 hours every weekend just to get to me and I’m not even taking into account the fact that I work (on weekends) from 0600 in the morning ‘till noon and twice a month or more I’m oncall one of them days which, on a worst case scenario basis, literally means I only see him 12 hours per week. Yes, I’m sure many would argue that this is considered a luxury in comparison to those who only see their spouses once every few months but I don’t want to compare myself to those unfortunate people. I want to compare myself to those who see their loved ones every day and take it for granted. I want to compare myself to those who don’t need to cry every Sunday night when he packs to return to work. I don’t want to be those girls anymore.


People tell me that the first year of marriage is the most difficult hurdle. Also a long distance relationship in the first year of marriage will definitely be of utmost adversity.


It’s so grueling at work and now I have to have a grueling relationship too?

Just feel so damn tired of all this sh*t.

I’ve watched my fellow colleagues, MOs… heck specialists who can’t get their transfers heavy-heartedly trudge to work leaving their families behind and only meeting once a month. I do not wish to be them. Even if I did have the strength to do so, “hor pit-leh”?

Yes, I have applied for a transfer and yes, I’ve done it for awhile now. I get so pissed off when I tell people my posting and they ask me in a flurry if I’ve applied for a transfer. F*ck of course I bloody did!! Nothing’s happening so there’s nothing much I can do right? I’m not the Minister of Health’s daughter / niece / neighbor!

I’ve done all the tears. I’ve done the tears during the TI era. So when I see my colleagues loathe and bawl over their crappy posting now, I don’t join the waterworks ‘cos I’ve been there. I’ve done that. 3 months of it… it’s enough to dry out The Three Gorges Dam! Obtaining a sh*tty posting is not anything new to me.

Now the only way is to pray for my KL transfer to pull through. That or… *sigh* I dunno… resign? I just cannot do this sh*t anymore. I don’t think if people think it’s cowardly or weak. I don’t f*cking care. I’m tired of being thrown around like a baseball no more. Yet I’m also afraid to not earn my APC (license to practice medicine in Malaysia) if I do quit. All the 6 years of medical school down the gutter. Whoah it’s a lot to grasp all at once, isn’t it?

A new job…

I’ve not known anything else apart from Medicine. I don’t know if I can do anything else.

A new world.

Interviews, adaptation… colleagues who are NOT doctors…

I stumbled upon afew good guides that I thought might be real useful for, well, us should we ever need it:

50 Worst of the Worst (and Most Common)Job Interview Mistakes by Karen Burns:

1. Arriving late.

2. Arriving too early.

3. Lighting up a cigarette, or smelling like a cigarette.

4. Bad-mouthing your last boss.

5. Lying about your skills/experience/knowledge.

6. Wearing the wrong (for this workplace!) clothes.

7. Forgetting the name of the person you're interviewing with.

8. Wearing a ton of perfume or aftershave.

9. Wearing sunglasses.

10. Wearing a Bluetooth earpiece.

11. Failing to research the employer in advance.

12. Failing to demonstrate enthusiasm.

13. Inquiring about benefits too soon.

14. Talking about salary requirements too soon.

15. Being unable to explain how your strengths and abilities apply to the job in question.

16. Failing to make a strong case for why you are the best person for this job.

17. Forgetting to bring a copy of your resume and/or portfolio.

18. Failing to remember what you wrote on your own resume.

19. Asking too many questions.

20. Asking no questions at all.

21. Being unprepared to answer the standard questions.

22. Failing to listen carefully to what the interviewer is saying.

23. Talking more than half the time.

24. Interrupting your interviewer.

25. Neglecting to match the communication style of your interviewer.

26. Yawning.

27. Slouching.

28. Bringing along a friend, or your mother.

29. Chewing gum, tobacco, your pen, your hair.

30. Laughing, giggling, whistling, humming, lip-smacking.

31. Saying "you know," "like," "I guess," and "um."

32. Name-dropping or bragging or sounding like a know-it-all.

33. Asking to use the bathroom.

34. Being falsely or exaggeratedly modest.

35. Shaking hands too weakly, or too firmly.

36. Failing to make eye contact (or making continuous eye contact).

37. Taking a seat before your interviewer does.

38. Becoming angry or defensive.

39. Complaining that you were kept waiting.

40. Complaining about anything!

41. Speaking rudely to the receptionist.

42. Letting your nervousness show.

43. Overexplaining why you lost your last job.

44. Being too familiar and jokey.

45. Sounding desperate.

46. Checking the time.

47. Oversharing.

48. Sounding rehearsed.

49. Leaving your cell phone on.

50. Failing to ask for the job

How To Answer 10 Tricky Interview Questions by Karen Burns

1. “Tell me about yourself.”

DO: Talk about the ways that what you know and what you can do are perfectly suited to this job.
DON’T: Tell the interviewer your life story.

2. “Tell me something bad you’ve heard about our company.”

DO: You wouldn’t apply for a job at a company you disapproved of, would you? So you should be able to honestly answer that you haven’t heard anything negative about this place.
DON’T: Repeat gossip you might have heard.

3. “Why should I hire you?”

•DO: Impress your interviewer with how much you know about the company’s requirements and then describe how you are the best person to meet those requirements.
•DON’T: Get tripped up by a lack of prior research.

4. “Where do you see yourself in five years?”

DO: Talk about how your specific abilities, training, and experience will enable you to smoothly integrate with this company.
DON’T: Say that you have no idea.

5. “How would you react if I told you your interview so far was terrible?”

DO: Recognize that this is a test to see if you get flustered. Say, mildly, that you would ask for reasons why.
DON’T: Freak out. Remember, the interviewer said “if.”

6. “What’s the last book you read?”

DO: Mention a book that reflects well on you. Choose something by a reputable author that your interviewer has probably heard of.
DON’T: Name a book you haven’t actually read.

7. “Can you work under pressure?”

DO: Say that of course you can, and then relate a brief story about a time you did.
DON’T: Just say, "Yes I can." Provide a specific example.

8. “Who’s your hero?”

DO: Name a person who has inspired you and then describe specifically how this inspiration relates to your work.
DON’T: Get caught off-guard by what should really be a softball question. Come prepared with a good answer.

9. “Have you ever considered starting your own business?”

DO: Talk about how you are happiest and do your best work in a company that is amazingly similar to the one you’re applying at.
DON’T: Go on and on about how you’d love to be your own boss one day.

10. “If you won the lottery, would you still work?”

DO: Be honest and say you’d be thrilled to win the lottery; then add that even if you did you’d still seek out satisfying work, because work is what makes people happy.
DON’T: Say that you’d never work again (too honest) or that you’d just work for free (too BS-y).

Bottom line: It pays to think through in advance how you would handle some of the more common trick questions. In general, remember never to badmouth or blame others, especially past employers. Be careful not to betray your nervousness with jittery body language. Don’t lie or babble, or show frustration, impatience, disappointment, or anger.

The most important thing to remember is that hiring managers who ask these questions are far more interested in how you answer than what you answer. They just want to see how well you think on your feet. So even if a question completely flummoxes you, keep your cool, smile, and look ‘em in the eye.


suituapui said...

Count your blessings! You could have been posted here to the interior...or Sabah! 2 hours plus on the nice highway roads over there - not bad at all! Come and try ours!!! Well, good luck and all the best! Give the place a chance - you'll get to love it soon enough.

shelbybaby said...

suituapui: lucky for me fastfwd 1 mth i'm no living in the rural corner of the urban kl which is of all the rurals i've been... the best rural of all! babydoll don't challenge me ços i really will one day take on your offer. thanks for dropping by and offering comfort. it's nice to know people care :)

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